During Julia’s junior year in college, she met a great guy. But she didn’t want to date him. « I was at the end of another relationship that had been really good. So I don’t think I was psychologically ready to get involved again and at the same time, I was pretty horny, » she recalls.
So after a halfhearted attempt at a romantic relationship, Julia and Steve decided that what they really wanted was « friendship with a little sex thrown in. » For years after that, whenever both of them were single at the same time, they would sleep together. « Friends of mine always used spotted app to hope that we would get together, but I always knew there was nothing but friendship, » Julia says.
Having regular, no-strings-attached sex with someone you’re not romantically involved with has become such a cultural phenomenon that it’s acquired a name –« friends with benefits. » (Others call it « bed buddies, » or use more explicit terms.) For Julia and Steve, it worked out well — the « benefits » part of their friendship ended when she met the man who is now her husband, but they’re still close, and get together for dinner when he’s in town. (suite…)